Lily of the Valley one of my favorite floral scents. Last year I missed its peak blooming days, which meant no fresh arrangement for the house. (Those little buds are fragrant!)
At the time I was writing a weekly installment on Commode To Joy called Human Highlights, a series that I wrote every Sunday for 9 months capturing exactly what it suggests – a human moment and highlight of the week.
All too often, with this positivity movement, our human moments, pain points, and less-than-ideals get skipped right over. On to the happy! I disagree with that notion.
It’s been true for me again and again that in order to move on to the happy, I must first acknowledge those commode-like situations, from the less than ideal to the flat out, well, shitty.
I missed Lily of the Valley’s peak last year. I knew it’d be a whole year before I’d enjoy its fragrance again, and I was bummed. Enough so that I wrote about it as my human moment.
Two benefits came from that post.
First and foremost, a friend with a huge stock of Lily of the Valley cut an arrangement and dropped it off at my house the very next day.
Secondly, one year later, it’s served as another reminder of why it’s important to acknowledge (not dwell on, but acknowledge) moments in life that didn’t sit well or were disappointing. Those with a hint of, If I could go back and do over…
(On a redo I’d have set a reminder on my phone to pick the flowers!)
Those woulda coulda shouldas aren’t for the past, but for the future.
I was bummed enough about missing out on last year’s arrangement, that guess what? This year I’ve checked them daily. Friday I filled a vase with them. Yesterday morning I walked into my kitchen full of one of my favorite scents.
That’s the turn around – the ode in my commode-like moment. If I could go back and redo last year? I’d do it the exact same. Fast forward to today, and my flub has brought me a whole lot of happiness.Use woulda coulda shouldas for the future, not the past. Click To Tweet
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