Commode To Joy

finding happy in the crappy

A Brief Note On Grief

It’s difficult seeing clearly when viewing life through the clouded eyes of grief. Whether you’ve lost a loved one recently or whether it’s been years or decades and the veil that’s clouding your vision still hasn’t lifted, perhaps it’s time to take matters into your own hands. External circumstances (i.e., death) put the veil in place; internal efforts are what lift it. At some point, you get used to grief. […]

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Joy In Every Journey

There is joy in every journey. It’s a blanket statement, and it’s true. Let me show you how. “Journey” contains the word “joy”, and, without scrambling the remaining letters, also contains the word “urne”, the Middle English equivalent of “urn”. The positioning of the words is where it gets interesting – “urn” is centered within the word “journey” surrounded always by “joy”. When I hear the word “urn” I think […]

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Making Memories Doesn’t End With Death

Have you ever noticed how many condolence cards talk about looking back on memories made…be thankful for the memories…hold on to the memories… Those cards don’t jive with me. There’s too much of a finality to the sentiment. He’s dead. I’m sorry. Happy memorializing. Period. Sign, stamp, send. Yes, I have memories of dad. And guess what? The memories didn’t end with his life. Five years ago my dad died […]

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Joy Floats

When you point out a bundle of balloons tied to a produce stand to your balloon-loving child because you’re as interested in enjoying the moment with him as you are in buying groceries. When you blow a kiss to the produce stocker for voluntarily getting a courtesy balloon for your child and you realize that you’re blowing the kiss out of gratitude and not as a habitual farewell. When you […]

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Fear Has A New Face, and It’s A (Not So) Scary Cat

One of my son’s current go-to books is “CAT” by Matthew Van Fleet. While my son meows at the various cats pictured in the book, pets the different fur textures, and pulls tabs that move paws or tails, I am marveling at how many cat idioms exist and are cleverly portrayed within its pages. Of all of the fine felines highlighted within the book, my personal favorite is the “Scary cat”. […]

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